Finding my voice?
by Katrina
on 28 Aug 2008, 15:17
Dear Zahohie,
I seem to be unable to hold my tongue and keep my opinions to myself lately. I use to be unable to speak my minds and I could feel the words caught in my throat, so afraid to hurt or be hurt. Now it's changed and I want to let my friends know they are not helping themselves by not changing situations that continue to be problems in there lives. I feel what I say it right but it is so new to me that it almost sounds too harsh, too judgmental. How can I tell when I am talking from my heart not some spiritual superiority place?
by Zahohie
on 29 Aug 2008, 21:14
Dear Katrina,
When I talk from my heart I feel my inner truth, I feel my inner balance and I feel in peace with myself and the world around me. Even so my words could look like a judgment or a kind of superiority place, but it doesn’t feels like this.
If I speak out of a place of superiority I feel this superiority, I feel myself superior than the other (even this feeling could be quite hidden – but if I observe myself closely and I’m honest to myself I will identify this feeling of superiority).
When I speak out of my heart I feel love and understanding toward the other person and there is no desire to change them. Even I speak my truth I can allow the other person to be and act out as he or she prefers. I feel NO desire to change them; I’m in an inner place of empathy. I can perceive their pain and other emotions and observe their situations and behavior. I observe the other person through my empathy and understanding. I allow others to be and to do what they choose for themselves – I just communicate what I observe.
If I speak out of a place of superiority I feel somehow that I’m right and the other person is wrong and a (hidden) desire to change them.
So I OBSERVE my FEELINGS AT THE MOMENT I SPEAK my truth to get aware about my expressions ... and to get also aware about my judgments toward my expressions ... and so I invite you ...
;-)
Love
Britta-Zahohie
by Katrina
on 01 Sep 2008, 00:12
Thank you so much. I seem to have been so delighted with being able to speak up that now I am sure I was making judgments in hopes of changing them. I have always known that was something I have to work on but I had deluded myself that I was beyond that. I will have to continue to try and see the perfection in others and just send love only. But it is hard when you see people repeating patterns, like myself also. Perhaps I think if they can change I can too. I will keep trying. Thanks again.
Katrina
by Zahohie
on 01 Sep 2008, 21:24
Dear Katrina,
I understand very well!
But you know ... until I couldn’t see the perfection within myself it was difficult for me to see it in others - I was trying to twist my feelings, to make them fit to an idea ... but mostly I couldn’t feel it ...
My observation and experience is, that until I do not stop to judge myself I can’t love myself ... until I don’t love and honor myself I can’t love and honor somebody else without conditions ... until I do not respect myself I can’t respect other people the way they are ... and that because they reflect exactly who I am – these parts of myself I haven’t recognized yet ...
And I recognized, that judging myself because I’m judging others is a huge judgment about myself. Because judging is just a part of my human reality. Within this respect to myself I could start to OBSERVE my judgments just as they are within a warm and loving feeling towards myself.
With this I would like to invite you to just go on to speak out your truth as you FEEL it - this is an opening up for you – with this you will bring yourself to your next step – and when you speak out your truth, OBSERVE yourself and your FEELINGS!!!! – and within this love and respect to yourself CHOOSE for yourself what ever you would like to express ... with this you will find your voice step by step.
If you find yourself wanting to change others – observe yourself what you would like to change there – and then go back to yourself – what is it, what you are not changing within yourself – what is it that you judge within yourself – because you want to change it ...
And another little invitation I would like to give you – observe how often you refer to your feelings, this what you feel it is; and how often you refer to your thoughts, this what you think it is.
Within your feelings you will find your truth at each moment – within your thoughts you will find your beliefs....
Love,
Britta-Zahohie
by Katrina
on 06 Sep 2008, 19:24
Dear Britta-Zahohie,
Thank you again. I have been working on changing my beliefs for awhile but it does seem that harder I try the farther away I get.
There is no stopping me from expressing myself at least a lot more than I have ever before. But it feels like my lack of experience or the stored up years of not expressing myself makes my statements come out harsher. And of course I know I should not be judging other anyway. So there comes the guilt and so I wonder if I will ever see the perfection in myself or others. I keep trying to tell myself to keep working at it and I will but I loose my patience. I try to meditate more and connect a little with my higher self but there seems to be blocks in my energy fields that at times I wonder if I will ever have a truly connect the way I should. Thanks again for your guidance.
Love,
Katrina
by Zahohie
on 06 Sep 2008, 22:45
Dear Katrina,
Katrina wrote:
I have been working on changing my beliefs for awhile but it does seem that harder I try the farther away I get.
Yes, when I push, it will push back. This is the way energy works.... (a belief is energy in its core).
Until I do not accept my belief AS IT IS – I do not respect and recognize my belief as it is – I ignore my belief ... Do you want to be ignored?
A belief doesn’t want to be changed – a belief is a creation in itself – you have chosen it on other levels at other times ...
My experience is, that it is important to FEEL the belief AS IT IS – when you come at your inner point of total acceptance of this belief as it is – you can choose something different. Choosing something different is not changing it, it is allowing each to be as it is, I just choose my preference out of a variety ...
So I invite you to sit down and just to breathe, simply observe your breath as it flows ... Invite your beliefs and judgments you are in conflict with and allow yourself to feel them as they are – please invite your higher self (your soul, your essence) to be with you and to help you - (my energy is with you also to support you) - FEEL your guilt about judging – just feel this feeling as it is, don’t try to change anything – just breathe with what you feel ... - and allow it to be as it is – here at this point you can ask your higher self for more clarity – and just allow – don’t await anything – just observe and allow ...
... ask yourself – what is bad about judging?! - what will happen if you judge?! ... FEEL it, observe ...
If you feel any block – allow yourself to feel this block – don’t try to change it – just feel it as it is – breathe with it, allow and FEEL it – then ask this block, what does it represent – what is inside of this block?! - observe, and feel everything what is coming up ...
Allow yourself clarity about everything what is coming up!!!!
In your daily life, when you find yourself judging – can you allow to FEEL WHAT you feel at these moments ... ?! (breathe with what you feel!)
Can you allow to judge for a while?! ... and just feel it ... ?!
Allow your higher self to be with you and to help you at any time – even if you are not aware of its present – it is with you and helping you ... Just observe ... and allow your clarity!
When you have gone through this process, or you have any question about it – please come back here, and tell your experiences!
Love
Britta-Zahohie